Sexual intercourse, kissing, hugging and other acts of intimacy are a choice. Being in a relationship does not mean you have to engage in sexual activity. Even if you have had sexual activity before with your partner, you still have a choice about whether you want to continue having a sexual relationship. You have a choice about when, where and what types of sexual activity you are comfortable with. You can also choose to stop any act of sexual intimacy that is making you uncomfortable. It is ok to say no. Both persons should be in agreement about sexual activity.
Not all your friends who say they are having sex, actually are. Even if your friends are having sex, that does not mean this is a right choice for you. Before engaging in sexual intercourse, you should be able to talk to your partner about sex. It is better to have an embarrassing talk about sex, than an embarrassing sexual encounter. There are other activities that you can engage in with your partner. For adolescents, there is a legal age of consent but that does not mean it is the right age for you.
Before you engage in sexual activity you should be physically, mentally and emotionally ready for the act and any consequences.
Whatever your age, explore the questions at the link below to determine if you and partner are ready for sexual intercourse.
You can talk about being ready for sexual activity with your health care provider.
- http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Sexandyoungpeople/Pages/Readytogoalltheway.aspx#sex. Accessed January 15, 2015 at 9:36 pm
- http://teenhealthsource.com/sex/checklist/. Accessed January 15, 2015 at 9:48 pm